- Tell hurtful jokes about your friends…
- Say “just kidding” all the time…
- Hide your feelings with negative comments…
- Give fake compliments like, “Nice shirt. Where did you get it—Kmart?”
- Hide your anger by saying, “No, I’m not angry. I’m really, really happy. Can’t you tell?”
- Use sarcasm to lighten the tone when a friend shares something serious…
…then you’re probably sarcastic. Now what?
Do you want to change? Are you willing to feel uncomfortable as you get honest? If so, great. Let’s look at what’s really going on.
It’s one thing to be sarcastic when dealing with yourself, it’s another thing to be sarcastic with your GFs. Think of how sensitive you are at times. Remind yourself that your GFs are just as sensitive or even more so. Jokes can hurt us.
So to save your friendships, let’s talk straight.
- Get real with your feelings! Are you jealous? There will be times when things don’t go your way and you don’t get what you want. That’s no excuse to take it out on your friends.
- Set a goal to break your sarcastic habit. Tell your GFs to remind you when your joking goes overboard. Give them permission to tell you over and over again. Believe me, their reminders will get old—quick. You’ll stop eventually.
- Are you hiding an emotion? The next time you are sarcastic, think about what feeling you might be trying to hide. You don’t have to tell anyone what you discovered. It’s a good exercise so you start getting in touch with your emotions. If you’re brave, share what you really meant afterwards. Unless, of course, it’s going to hurt someone.
- Work on staying positive with your friends. Bringing them down with sarcasm leads to loneliness.
- Add a rubber band to your wrist. If you talk sarcastically, snap it. That’ll wake you up real quick.
- Relax. Give yourself time to replace your jokes with straight talk. Realize lasting change won’t happen overnight.